Unfortunately, most women don't know how to give good blow jobs. They're looking for advice from other women that just think they know what are doing - but are in fact more or less clueless. Don't get dissapointed if you're not that good - you can learn easily if you invest some time into getting the right knowledge and the real stuff - and not some stupid Cosmo fluff.
I'll give you a few tips so you can give your man really good blow jobs. The first thing you need to do is change the way you view the whole "oral sex" thing. Over time you'll see that there's a lot more psychological stuff involved than physical. Let's start with some basic tips.
Blow Job Tip #1
Relax. Get yourself to relax. Worrying and thinking negative won't help you that much. What you really need is to get yourself and him in a comfortable position first. Next, try getting him to relax - but before that, you have to relax yourself. Emotions tend to jump from person to person. So if you're going to be all nervous and lost - well, you don't want that happening.
Why are you nervous? You're trying. Even if it's not the best bj right away - so what? At least you're trying and every guy will appreciate that. So relax, who cares. It's not the end of the world. Over time and practice you'll get better. Just view it as FUN and NOT WORK. Once you get into a playful attitude you can both just laugh about it and enjoy it without worrying about the outcome. That brings us the second tip.
Blow Job Tip #2
Stop expecting an outcome. He doesn't have to orgasm. When you start worrying about it and thinking (while giving him head) - "Oh, why didn't he came yet?", "Am I doing it right?" and other similar stuff - you'll just make him nervous, then he'll start thinking "oh no, what if I can't orgasm, is she tired, maybe I'm forcing this on her, maybe she's not even enjoying it" - and that certainly won't bring him to climax. So - relax. And forget about the outcome.
Let there be fun, truly enjoy it and whatever. If he doesn't orgasm this time, so what, he will next time. You just have to get off the stress from yourself and him. When you're giving him head, you're the one that's leading. His pleasure depends on you completely (or pain). So stay in control, and understand that it's all about controlling his mind.
Any woman can learn good bj techniques - but not every woman can learn how to control a guys emotions during the blow job. That's what you have to learn if you truly want to be the best he ever had.
Blow Job Tip #3
Would you believe that a simple thing as a smile can make a HUGE difference. All you girls out there that are not smiling, and are all serious when giving blow jobs to their boyfriends or husbands. Hello? Don't view it as a job. Get a fun attitude and SMILE. You have to convey to him that you're really enjoying it - and a smile is where you should start.
Those are the basics. Keep on learning and with a little practice, you'll be the only woman he'll ever desire. Ever! Such is the power of great bj's. The good thing for you (once you learn the skills) is that your competition is pretty low. It's not that hard to be better than average when it comes to giving your man oral. Just a little practice and the right knowledge - that's it.
- written by your resident blow job instructor, Jack
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